Tum Haar Ke Dil Apna …

This world is for the winners and definitely not for the losers. Who wants to remain a loser ? None. However certain issues related to a human-being’s heart are such that one has to lose first in order to emerge as a winner ultimately.

Shah Rukh Khan asserted in his famous movie – Baazigar (1993) – “Kabhi-Kabhi jeetne Ke Liye Haarna Bhi Padta Hai. Aur Haar Kar Jeetne Waale Ko Baazigar Kehte Hain” (sometimes one has to lose first to win later and the one who wins after losing is called a Baazigar). Said right, I believe.

When you love somebody, you cannot win his / her heart by putting him / her down or showing off yourself or trying your hand on one-upmanship. Humility is the thumb-rule to win a heart and continue to keep it under your possession after winning it initially. By trying to put your beloved down in an argument or some issue, you may feel that you have won but in fact this is the start of the process of losing his / her heart.

Since I had got someone’s love in my life, I noted this point. She always felt pleasure in losing an argument or a debate or a game to me. She always wanted me to win. Anywhere ! Everywhere ! I still remember her assertion – “Hum Aapko Sar Utha Kar Jeete Huye Dekhna Chaahte Hain” (I want to see you living with your head high). The outcome was simple. She won my heart. Forever !

I remember watching Karan Johar’s film Kuchh Kuchh Hota Hai (1998) in which Kajol is able to get Shah Rukh in the movie only when she has learnt to lose in the game of Basketball. Though I do not advocate losing in this way, yet winning the heart is definitely a bigger bet and then losing in a trivial thing is not a deal of loss.

In fact, I am telling all these things from the point of view of females. In the practical world, a person (male or female but mostly a male in the Indian context) has to bow down at several places for practical reasons, may be for his own sake or sometimes for the sake of the joys and happiness of his family members. Then should he be forced to bow down at home too or by his beloved / sweetheart too ? A person who loses at his home, can hardly expect to win outside. Yet several females do not understand it.I remember an unforgettable song from the movie Prem Geet (1981)Hothon Se Chhoo Lo Tum, Mera Geet Amar Kar Do which has been penned by Indeevar and sung and composed by Jagjit Singh. It is a very touching song. I am quoting a stanza of this song to explain what I want to express through this post :

Jag Se Chheena Mujh Se Mujhe Jo Bhi Laga Pyara

Sab Jeeta Kiye Mujh Se, Main Har Dum Hi Haara

Tum Haar Ke Dil Apna, Meri Jeet Amar Kar Do

(The world has snatched everything from me which was dear to me, I always lost whereas all others have won over me, you make my win immortal by losing your heart to me).

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About Jitendra Mathur

A Chartered Accountant with literary passion and a fondness for fine arts
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12 Responses to Tum Haar Ke Dil Apna …

  1. Jheelam says:

    “Yet several females do not understand it.”- highly debatable point from a female’s perspective. 😀
    However, this is one of my favorite songs (only one time where I could tolerate the immensely “insufferable-on-screen” Raj Babbar for the sake of the melody), so I’d let it go.

    • Hearty thanks Jheelam Ji. It’s very difficult for most of the people to understand others’ pains and viewpoints. I have only poured my heart out and not put forth anything to debate on.

  2. neerajme says:

    Oh! My favourite song and a great interpretation of the nuances of life hidden in the garb of analysis of the song. Incidentally…I have been a big fan of Raj Babbar and his acting skills that is in complete contrast to the liking of Jheelam (Though I am not that great admirer of his political leanings…but that is a different matter.)
    On the other note…if as your blog’s reader I could make one request then I would love to read a movie review of ” Choti Si Baat” Starring Ashok Kumar,Amol Palekar,Vidya Sinha and Asrani. If you have already done a review on the movie, then could you please provide the link? However this is just a light request and needn’t be taken seriously.

  3. neerajme says:

    Thanks Jitendra Jee for the link.

  4. .it is okay to loose…but bouncing back every time whenever we fail is important….but nicely written

  5. amidivit says:

    Hi, Lovely read. Can read my latest post Khwaaish! – Desire on

  6. Else Odam says:

    Once again beautiful write up! I love coming back here to read! Thank you for sharing..

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